Teenage brains are highly attuned to social rewards, especially receiving positive feedback from their peers, and the popular kids — girls and guys — seem to be swimming in them. The farther they can get from anything adults approve of, the better.
Hence the allure of the alpha girl. High-status teenagers, the research suggests, tend to behave in ways adults find inappropriate, which other teenagers find exhilarating. They are, in a word, cool. Their daring, adult-like-but-not-adult-approved behavior is the reason they claim the dominant, central role in their friend groups, Allen explained.
It goes back to the notion of teenage autonomy. If you are an alpha in high school, in other words, you are not necessarily an alpha for life. The social skills the cool girls and guys learned in high school tend not to work very well after they leave.
But the rest of the world has moved on. Already a subscriber? Log in or link your magazine subscription. You are in school to gain an education so that you are well-prepared and equipped for a future career which can lead towards success. Your current surroundings and social circles will not last forever, so it is important to prepare for the future. Furthermore, having good grades will boost your reputation, cause you to appear intelligent, and perhaps prompt people to seek your assistance.
Use social media. Presenting a positive image of yourself online can help you gain people's approval and give them a better idea of your personal identity. Follow your classmates and friends so that they may follow you in return.
Post appropriate images that reflect your personality and interests, and be sure to include various pictures so that they are new and unique. For instance, instead of solely posting selfies, try to take pictures of different subjects, such as your pets, delicious meals, friends, and gatherings or outings with your classmates and friends. If you are not comfortable with sharing images of your face, do not feel ashamed, and remember that your comfort is important.
Look at other popular girls' accounts for inspiration. Based on the style of their pictures, what are your first impressions of the person? If you are pleased with their style, think of a way that you can imitate it while remaining as original as possible. Avoid completely copying someone; otherwise, people may label you as a copycat.
If you want to, edit your pictures. However, experience and hours of editing isn't necessary, especially since you can simply find a nice filter to enhance your images. Be sure that you keep your editing as light as possible so that your natural beauty shines through, allowing others to see you as you truly are. Try not to become absorbed by social media or allow your life to revolve around it.
Allow yourself to take a break from it, and avoid spending too much time with the camera. Be careful about who you share your pictures with, as well as what you post. For instance, avoid posting your location or landmarks that will allow people to determine your whereabouts. Furthermore, remember that your pictures represent your personality, affect your reputation, and can be spread by others.
Do not allow unknown people to follow you, especially if they do not attend your school. Part 2. Maintain your health and physical appearance.
A well-balanced, organic diet can help boost your health while leaving space for some treats, such as candy and chips. Protein and calcium are important. Although you should eat what you like, remember to maintain control over your eating habits and avoid frequently consuming high-fat, unhealthy foods.
To get a better idea of how you eat, you can start a food diary to mark down your food while planning future meals. If you want, you can also look up healthy recipes to try.
To remain fit, be sure to exercise for at least thirty minutes a day. If you have a tight schedule, you can split the time up into three ten-minute sessions. Running, yoga, sports, walking your dog, or dancing are all good ways to remain active.
Have good hygiene. Maintain basic habits, such as daily showers, brushing and flossing your teeth, and keeping your face clean with cleanser, toner, and moisturizer. Have smooth skin. Wash your face every day with a face wash. Put a moisturizing face cream on every time after you wash your skin. Do not put Vaseline or sticky body cream on your face. Popular girls care about their appearance, so to make your fashion or outfit even more cute by wearing some accessories.
Don't be afraid to go for a nice long necklace or maybe even five skinny brackets. Even check in magazines to check the popular trends.
Have gorgeous hair. Cutting it short is cute, or if you want long hair, you can do more things with it. It depends on whether you want it short or long. If you want, get some highlights or colored streaks. Make sure they look good on you.
Side bangs and layers are good too. Style your hair in ponytails, updos, braids, and curls. You could also just add a nice headband or clip. Make sure you treat your hair nicely. Shampoo and condition weekly depending on your hair type. Only condition your ends because conditioner can make your roots greasy. If your hair is naturally straight, straighten it further so that it is perfectly straight and then see the look of shock on other people's faces when you inform them it's naturally that style!
If your hair is naturally curly or wavy, you can enhance that too or straighten it if that is what you want, not changing who you are. At school, carry around with you or have in your locker a giant hairbrush so that you can brush your hair with a minimum amount of strokes at a time, creating the illusion that your hair is always perfect.
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. If you're going to wear makeup, only wear eye shadow, mascara, concealer, powder, bronzer, blush, lipstick or even shiny lip gloss.
Helpful 0 Not Helpful 1. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 1. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 3. Know all the slang because if someone says some slang and you have no idea what they meant, you're not going to get more popular.
The longer one reigns for, the more accepting of your dominance everyone becomes. It is best to start as early as possible, as then you have more time and a bigger advantage. We don't want to admit schadenfreude but, let's face it, we all had it a bit when this happened. At my school one of the popular girls snogged another girl's boyfriend and it felt like the end of the world at the time. She was cast down the social ladder faster than you could say "Nobody will care about this in a month".
So it's no wonder that a Reddit thread about this exact topic has become extremely popular, with users commenting on the mistakes that lead to the demise of the King or Queen of their school, here are some of the best, do you have a better one? He got a bad haircut, was teased for it an threw a temper tantrum. He literally stormed out in the middle of class. He lost his spot as king bully after that.
There was a girl that was THE popular girl in school. She had all the friends and even put out an album; she was a total star locally. When we left the class there was green diarrhea ALL over the floor just down the hall from the classroom.
She married a famous NFL player and is one of these Instagram ppl now so she bounced back from a shitty situation pretty well. He and his couple friends started smoking crack senior year of high school. They got quarantined to themselves. Ran into one of them a couple weeks ago, he kept trying to get me back to their apartment to do meth. She was hired to dogsit for a neighbour when they went out of town. She decided to take advantage of the empty house and throw a party at the neighbour's house that got out of hand.
Neighbour's daughter also went to the school and had to deal with a messed up house. Pretty big deal and the popular girl never came back. All popular kids in my school were complete dickheads that bullied others. This fella, King of the Hill, starts dating a girl from another school that was friends with one of the bullied kids. The kid told the girl what her boyfriend does in that school, so the girl threatened to break up with him if he didn't change his ways.
He stopped socializing with the "cool" folks and started getting bullied by them, and none of the other kids wanted to warm up to him. He was a loner at school but he made his gf happy and he was happy. Well, the popular girl at my school tried to ruin the life of a really sweet girl because of boyfriend drama. When she realized people were standing up for the sweet girl instead, she lost her mind.
The nail in the coffin was when she confided to me and two others that she was planning to put laxatives in the pastries she baked for the class.
Obviously I let people know, and she became completely ostracized. She left at the end of junior year, and senior year was the most chill year ever. He was popular because he was a rebel that talked back to teachers, and insulted them openly. He became an outcast because he made the teacher everyone loved cry.
Guy got caught with a bunch of heroin in the trunk of his car, on school grounds and was over 18 as a senior. Never saw or heard about him after that, but I'm guessing it didn't go well for him.
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